How To Boost Self-Confidence In Your 40’s, 50’s and Beyond

Maybe that title is misleading. To be confident in something implies that you have done it before and have reasonable assurance in your ability to do it again. For example, I am confident in my ability to ride a bike. I have done it before and have years of practice. When I was 4 and first learning, I was not confident at all. But as I practiced, my confidence grew and so did my ability. I have never been 52 before. I am just learning what it’s all about. So how can I be confident in my ability to age well? Honestly, I can’t. What I can have, however, is courage. I am gaining the Courage to hold my head high and figure it out like a boss. You can too! Here are some tips to help you gain courage as you age so you can live a wiser, happier, and healthier life.

1. Show Yourself Grace

You are in a new stage of your life and are experiencing new challenges every day. Give
yourself grace. You will learn as you go and face these challenges head on. Do not be so hard on yourself and for goodness sakes, watch how you talk to yourself. As women, we are so hard on ourselves and talk to ourselves so negatively. Stop it! We internalize the words we say to ourselves so please, be kind. I encourage you to practice positive self talk. Remember your mom telling you that if you couldn’t say anything nice to not say anything at all? Practice that on yourself and watch your confidence grow!

2. Understand Your Strengths and Weaknesses

It is crucial to understand your strengths and weaknesses. That way, you can focus on what you are good at and not spend as much time on what you struggle in. This may be the opposite of what you have always been told. Oftentimes, you enjoy the things you are good at. The more you do those things, the better (and more confident) you become. If you struggle with something, you may not enjoy it as much. If it’s really important, continue working on it but do not let it be your focus. If it’s not important, don’t do it – especially if it does not bring you joy. For example, if you do not enjoy cooking and do not feel like you are good at it, don’t do it. If you live alone, keep it simple or buy pre-made meals. If you are married, maybe your spouse enjoys cooking and is better at it. Focus your time and energy on the things you are good at and your
confidence will soar!

3. Set Goals

When you set goals (and you should definitely set goals), start small and work your way up. Small goals can include things such as waking up at a certain time each day, getting a certain amount of sleep at night, reading for at least 10 minutes every day, etc. As you accomplish these smaller goals, it gives you confidence in working towards your bigger goals. These bigger goals can include saving a certain amount of money each year, completing a class you always wanted to, learning a new hobby, or even starting that business you always dreamed of but never had time for. The point is, the smaller goals you accomplish will grow your confidence and as your confidence grows, the more courageous you become. Set some goals today and get to work!

4. Reflect on Past Successes

Everyone has past successes. Sure, you have made mistakes – we ALL have. But do not discount all the success you have had thus far. You are strong and courageous. Think back on your life – you have made it through some really hard times and have enjoyed some really big successes. You have a ton of experience, both positive and negative, that you can use to help push you forward.

5. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

There is an old saying that life begins just outside your comfort zone. It really is true. If you want to increase your confidence and be courageous, it’s time to move just outside your comfort level. It does not have to be drastic to have a huge impact. It can be as simple as wearing that red lipstick you always shied away from. Eat the cake you always wanted but were afraid of the carbs. Buy the dress and wear it proudly. You have paid your dues and earned the right!

Bonus Tip Join the Club!

There is a funny trend going around social media that has to do with women once they reach a certain point in their life. It is called the IDNCC and stands for the “I Do Not Care Club”. I am a founding member and I suggest you join as well. The membership is free and once inside, you will find yourself amongst friends. You will no longer care what others think and will speak your mind. You will hold your head high and be full of confidence and courage no matter what the
task. You will try new things, eat the cake, and wear the outfit boldly and proudly. You will have the time of your life and never go back. I suggest you join me today!
Getting older does not mean the best part of your life is over. It is simply a change in direction. With the courage to try something new, the best is yet to come. Now, straighten your crown and get to work!